I have several friends going through a healing process--one that is visual, and audible, and palpable.
Heck, we are all healing, to some degree. There is always an emotional wound that keeps resurfacing, keeps breaking open again, like when you keep biting your lip in the same damned spot.
You have to heal yourself first. You have to forgive. You have to cry. You have to be angry. You have to say things or not say things, vent and sweat and shed. You have to accept everything about it.
Sometimes, you have to be a psychologist's boat payment to get to those places.
You can't pretend to be healed. You can't fake peace. Well, you can. But it's transparent and unbelievable.
Healing doesn't happen overnight. It doesn't happen in a month, or a year, or a decade. It is a process.
Maybe we spend our whole lives healing.
But that peace will come. It's one raindrop at first, a sense of "Whoa this feels amazing," and soon it's followed by the great flood, a rushing sense of "I'm going to be okay."
Allow yourself to feel what you feel. Don't hold back. Eventually peace pokes its way through, and it's the emotion that you welcome to stay. You memorize how it got there so that if it ever goes away, you know how to get it back.
Heal yourself.
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